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It Takes Strength To Love Someone That Doesn’t Love You Back

by Kim Boateng Last updated on August 26th, 2017,
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Unsplash, Brooke Cagle

Being a person who often cares too much and feels that there’s never enough I can give, I’ve had my share of heartbreak and unfulfilled expectations. My midnight thoughts echoing, Where did I go wrong? Why wasn’t I good enough?

No good comes out of it in the end, when it’s 3 AM and I’m in tears, crying out to God, asking why I never manage to be enough for anyone I love.

Surprisingly and most unfortunately, that scenario is not uncommon these days. We end up wandering about with earplugs, singing sad Ed Sheeran songs to our souls, feeding it with more melancholy as the days go by — until we feel numb and start the process all over again.

But let me tell you this. There is good in loving wholeheartedly. There is beauty in unconditional love.

You were the one who decided to look past the flaws of another person and accept them for who they are. It doesn’t matter if they did the same for you. As long as you have loved fully, I am proud of you and you should be too.

Because it is hard to keep giving, without expecting anything in return. It’s only natural human instinct to expect reciprocity, but look at you, defying these humanly expectations, showing that you’re able to give and not take.

Look at you, with the light shining in your eyes full of love, ready to give your heart to the universe, ready to risk it all because that’s who you are.

Look at you, fearlessly wearing your heart on your sleeve — such bravery deserves admiration.

You are strong for being able to love, without being loved in return. You aren’t just enough, you’re more than enough. The world needs more people like you, the world needs more givers than takers, only then will there be peace and compassion throughout the human race.

Don’t let another person’s inability to see your endless beauty stop you from seeing it yourself. Look in the mirror and say, “I love you,” because the only approval you need is your own.

One-sided love is always portrayed as painful and hurting, but change your lenses and see it from the brighter side — you are the giver of love, so really, how bad does that sound?

You are enough, so don’t let someone else’s myopic thinking and view of you diminish your ability and overflowing capacity to give unconditionally. Don’t let someone else validate your worth. Your self-worth is the amount of love you have to give this world.

Always look internally instead of externally when analyzing your value. Find yourself deep within and understand that you are so much more than you thought. There’s so much light in you, so much beauty and peace.

You are complete on your own. You’re not an unfinished puzzle waiting for the right person to complete you.

Stop thinking it’s ridiculous to love someone who doesn’t love you back. They’re the ones losing a person who deeply cares for them and loves them for who they are, so don’t feel sorry for yourself — feel sorry for them.

You are love. You are all that you need.

The truth about one-sided love? It’s still love given away, and it’s the best thing you can offer this world, which makes you the most beautiful person ever.  

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Kim Boateng

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