This Is Why You Will Never Get Over Him, No Matter How Long It Has Been

by Kim Boateng Last updated on February 17th, 2018,
God & Man
God & Man

There is always going to be that one person. That one human being who changed your life forever. It’s cliche right? To think that there will always be that one someone etched and marked permanently on your heart. But, that’s the kind of thing that love has the power to do. It’s what love is. 

This one person may still be in your life. They may be sitting next to you as you read this, happily drinking morning coffee, snuggled up in bed with you. This one person may be the one you marry. He may be the one you grow old and gray with. And you may be reading this and smiling to yourself thinking how lucky you are.

I hope you know how lucky you are.

Because while you may have done the unthinkable and actually got to spend the rest of your life with your one true love, the rest of the world is haunted. We are haunted. From that one person who got away. From the one person who took a piece of our heart that we will never get back. From that one person who changed our whole entire universe.

I used to think that one day I would just forget about him. I would just have him erased from my memories and from my mind, with the luxury and goodness of time. But that’s not how love works. Because true love is forever even if that person leaves you.

True love is forever, even when that love dies.

So we remain haunted and we don’t know why. We curse the skies and the clouds and whatever gods we believe in, wondering what the hell is wrong with us. We remain haunted by a ghost that has gone, and we still wonder why.

And this is why. You met someone who transformed you. You met someone who finally made you believe in yourself when you had lost all hope. You met someone who showed you that you are beautiful. You met someone who taught you that love is real, and that love? It can happen to you.

You are haunted by him not because you are pathetic, or clingy or crazy. You were in love. And that will never be erased from your mind. So no matter how hard you try, and no matter how much time passed, he will be sketched on your heart. No matter how many days, or months or years it has been since you last saw him.

There is nothing you can do to make it go away completely. Because when love comes your way once, it won’t completely leave the cells and bones on your body. You’ll always have a piece of that love, and you’ll always have a piece of him stenciled on your lips.

Time won’t make this love leave your heart. It won’t make the memories fade or die, no matter how much you try.

But isn’t that the point?

To find a love that never leaves, even when it does. To find a love that was so incredibly powerful, that it remains engrained in your brain. To find a love that was so intoxicatingly magical, that it never leaves your soul.

So maybe we are lucky too. Even if it ended. Even if it ran away. Maybe we are still the lucky ones.

Because even if it ended, even if it died and turned to dust, you’ll always know what it was. You’ll always know that it was love, and at one point in time, you had it all. You had it all.

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Kim Boateng

Kim Boateng

With a Degree in Environmental Sciences, Kim the self professed jack of all trades and master of some simply "goes there" and brings a level of attention and detail to Nigeria Circle's quest for excellence in investigative journalism that sets her apart. Before journalism she worked in Safety, Quality Assurance and Control in several industries.
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